Emotions
You might experience strong emotions such as sadness, anger or dread, or alternatively feel numb and cut off. Disbelief, guilt, stress, relief, distress, panic and soul-searching are all possible emotions you might experience, or you might feel none of these. Everyone is different, and there is no pattern or right order to the emotions you might feel. Your feelings are usually healthy and appropriate responses, and over time can be made more manageable.
Physical effects
Bereavement can seriously test your body’s defences. You might find yourself more prone to physical ill-health or other physical effects. Stomach pain, loss of appetite, sleep disturbance and loss of energy are all common experiences.
Spiritual effects
Bereavement can lead to profound spiritual questioning, a questioning of yourself, your identity and the meaning of life. It is also common to dream about your loved one or feel their presence in some way. Over time, it is possible to find meaning in grief and a new sense of purpose.
Social effects
Some people might isolate themselves and find social situations difficult. You may feel that you are the only one going through something which others do not understand. Bereavement can put a strain on family ties and friendships and can feel very lonely.
How to overcome grief
There are some things you can do to look after yourself when you have been bereaved.
Talk to people. If you can, find people you can talk to who can understand your loss, and allow you to express your feelings. It is important not to isolate yourself, and social connections can help you in a time of loss. If it is difficult to find people willing to listen, counselling may help.
Take care of your physical health. Bereavement can lower your immune system and make you prone to illness and other physical effects. Eating well, exercising and getting enough sleep can help. Get in touch with your doctor if you are concerned about your physical health. Be aware of the negative effects of alcohol or medication as ways to get through your grief.
Give yourself time. Recovery can take months or even years after a major loss. Don’t judge yourself, or let others judge you, if you are still feeling grief after a certain length of time has passed. Hold off on making big life decisions, such as moving house or changing jobs, until you have had time to adjust to your loss. Remember, too, that life is for the living, and while it may take time to live again, it is possible.
Ask for help if you need it. If you are struggling with a grief that feels too much to bear, please contact us or refer yourself to us, where are to hold your hands. It’s okay to grieve, but you don’t have to be alone. Contact us today by filling the form below!
